Tuesday, February 2, 2016

I am family oriented. I love being around my family. They make me comfortable with myself. They are the closest circle in my life. People who introduced me to this world. Then, As I grow up, I discover new thing, named friendship.

From kids until now I’ve had many kinds of friends. The intellectual, the bodyguard, the “mom”, the “younger sister”, and many more. Some of them stay until now, and some of them not. These special relationships do more than I expect. I learn about forgiveness, acceptance, and love. Researchers also find out that friends help us live longer. Friendship has bigger impact on our psychological well-being. I am so grateful to have genuine friendships. People who will support and make me want to be better version of me. People who treat me like their own family. I share with you 3 things we can learn from genuine friendship.

They really listen and... pray.

“It’s totally different between listening and waiting for your turn to talk.” How many times have you met someone like that? People who don’t care about what you say and self-centered. Conversation with real friends aren’t one-sided. It’s two-ways dialogue. They are friends who are selfless, compassionate, and caring. There will be one time in your life when you have no friend to talk or it’s just in the mid of the night, and you have nothing to do. Then, suddenly you text them and have two hours conversation after that.

The best thing is, they don’t just listen, but also pray for you.  It’s a blessing to have people like that.

They tell you the ugly truth.

We all have flaws. It’s a good thing to have someone who accepts our weaknesses, but it’s important to have someone who call you out when you are in the wrong. Real friends will identify our flaws in a mindful manner, for accountability’s sake. They will tell you if you do something negative in addition to the positive. They will tell you the ugly truth to make you better person. Honesty is important to teh bond.

They love you unconditionally.

This is what people look for. Acceptance. Love. Unconditional love. Real friends will accept you just the way you are. Real friends naturally boost your self-esteem. Real friends are supportive and encouraging. Real friends will speak bless into your life.

There are so many movies which reflect real friendship. I love Blair Waldorf and Serena Van Der Woodsen from Gossip Girl and Young Arlo and Spot from Good Dinosaur. One day you argue, the other day you laugh together. It’s a lifetime process. The season will change, and sometimes your friends will also change. It’s not about how long the friendship, it’s about the quality of friendship. Have a genuine, healthy and godly friendship that will bring the best in you. 




  1. Lovely post! Family are forever, they don't doesn't compare to friends!! Thanks for sharing Ivana! Xoxo

    xoxo - Life’s True Treasures

  2. I consider my family as my best friends & my besties as my families!!
    This post was such a lovely thing to read xx

    Kaylee | JK's Dawn

  3. Great, great blogpost! This is such a lovely thing to read!

  4. This is a great post, I'm definitely always that friend who tells you the truth, while sometimes it's not what you want to hear its what you need to hear
    The Lipstick, The Girl and Her Wardrobe

  5. What a lovely post. Regardless of religion, people who offer their prayers for you are a real blessing!

    Jasmine | The Sixth Disney Princess

  6. aaahh yes, friends are people to rely on for the truth! :D

    Have a great week!
    Animated Confessions

  7. Awe great post! Love your writing

  8. What a great post, Ivana ;-) I am grateful to be surrounded by genuine friends and they are my second family.

  9. Friendships are important but like flowers they need to be cared for and appreciated. And sometimes they don't last for ever but that's the way life is.


  10. So true! Can't agree more than this. Thanks for sharing x

  11. Friendships that include both supporting one another and loving unconditionally is essential! Great points here :)

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice

  12. A great family is definitely a blessing. Thanks for writing this!

  13. True friendship can change everything! Lovely post :)

    Via Sora

  14. This is so on point. And a true friendship is key and a step closer to finding happiness, and it's those people that make a difference in your life, making it all worth and making it better every step of the way. Loving one another more than anything and despite every difference and every mistake, is so hard to find nowadays. I've been blessed to have a bestfriend that's exactly like this - so blunt and honest, and willing to be here no matter what, and someone I consider a sister. Love her <3

    Such a lovely lovely post!
    Ella Pinto xx

  15. It's wonderful that you have such a great family!

    Heba xx || The Heba