I am family oriented. I love being around my family. They make me comfortable with myself. They are the closest circle in my life. People who introduced me to this world. Then, As I grow up, I discover new thing, named friendship.
From kids until now I’ve had many kinds of friends. The intellectual, the bodyguard, the “mom”, the “younger sister”, and many more. Some of them stay until now, and some of them not. These special relationships do more than I expect. I learn about forgiveness, acceptance, and love. Researchers also find out that friends help us live longer. Friendship has bigger impact on our psychological well-being. I am so grateful to have genuine friendships. People who will support and make me want to be better version of me. People who treat me like their own family. I share with you 3 things we can learn from genuine friendship.
They really listen and... pray.
“It’s totally different between listening and waiting for your turn to talk.” How many times have you met someone like that? People who don’t care about what you say and self-centered. Conversation with real friends aren’t one-sided. It’s two-ways dialogue. They are friends who are selfless, compassionate, and caring. There will be one time in your life when you have no friend to talk or it’s just in the mid of the night, and you have nothing to do. Then, suddenly you text them and have two hours conversation after that.
The best thing is, they don’t just listen, but also pray for you. It’s a blessing to have people like that.
They tell you the ugly truth.
We all have flaws. It’s a good thing to have someone who accepts our weaknesses, but it’s important to have someone who call you out when you are in the wrong. Real friends will identify our flaws in a mindful manner, for accountability’s sake. They will tell you if you do something negative in addition to the positive. They will tell you the ugly truth to make you better person. Honesty is important to teh bond.
They love you unconditionally.
This is what people look for. Acceptance. Love. Unconditional love. Real friends will accept you just the way you are. Real friends naturally boost your self-esteem. Real friends are supportive and encouraging. Real friends will speak bless into your life.